WEDDINGS and MARRIAGE
The purpose of the rabbi at a wedding is to ensure that the extremely detailed wedding halachot, as set out by the Shulchan Aruch, are followed correctly. If not, the wedding might not be kosher.
A Jewish marriage includes: a written document (ketuba); a financial transaction (ring) in front of two kosher witnesses; and physical intimacy.
Witnesses
Ring
Ketuba
A Jewish marriage includes: a written document (ketuba); a financial transaction (ring) in front of two kosher witnesses; and physical intimacy.
Witnesses
- The witnesses must be shomer Shabbat Jewish men.
- The bride and groom should confirm verbally that these are the two (and the only two) witnesses that they want.
Ring
- The groom must confirm that he acquired and owns the ring.
- The groom must say Harei at mekudeshet li ... to the bride and place the ring on her (index) finger.
Ketuba
- The ketuba must be kosher.
- Before the chuppa, someone (anyone, including women) must fill in (no safrut is required for this): the Hebrew names of the bride and groom; the date the wedding is taking place; the wedding location (city, etc.); and that a kinyan was made.
- The ketuba must be signed by two kosher witnesses.
- Dating
- Giving Information about Potential Mate
- Dating only People You May Marry
- Checking Jewish Lineage
- Checking on Whether the Couple May Marry
- Pre-Wedding
- Not Seeing Each Other
- Bride and Groom Fast
- Bride to the Mikva
- Groom to the Mikva
- Offspring at Parent's Re-Marriage
- Wedding: Ketuba
- Who May Write the Ketuba
- Ketuba Process
- Meaning of the Ketuba
- Financial Responsibility of Husband
- Safekeeping a Ketuba
- Wedding: Steps of Mesader Kidushin
- The First Blessings
- Confirming the Witnesses
- Checking the Ring
- Importance of Ring
- Modifying the Ring
- Wedding Customs (These are NOT halachot!)
- Wedding Customs: Couple Separates for Seven Days
- Wedding Customs: The Aufruf
- Wedding Customs: What the Bride Buys
- Wedding Customs: What the Groom Buys
- Wedding Customs: Prenuptial Agreement
- Wedding Customs: Groom to Mikva
- Wedding Customs: Wedding Shomer
- Wedding Customs: Tanayim
- Wedding Customs: Accompanying the Bride and Groom
- Wedding Customs: Chuppa
- Wedding Customs: Bride Circles Groom
- Wedding Customs: Baruch HaBa
- Wedding Customs: Drinking the Wine
- Wedding Customs: Wedding Ring
- Wedding Customs: Reading of the Ketuba
- Wedding Customs: Second Cup of Wine